I don't know what occured over the years, but somehow people have begun to think that they are the parents of my child. Making decisions without my permission! Giving my child false hopes because they feel it is good for her. They are creating a monster and its beginning to piss me off. I KNOW that it all comes with great intentions, but the madness has to end and it ends today! I have let my guard down in hopes to not offend. But now I am "the mean mommy". Now I am stuck with a child who believes the world owes her everything material. Material things come and go, its the gifts of life that really matter. I want her to enjoy being a child and not worrying about growing up so fast. We all know what the product of that can be.
Many parents find themselves saying, "I want my children to have everything I didnt have." I am not one of those parents because although I didnt have all the material things in life, I grew up with a strong foundation. Caring, manners, love, and concern were the basis. I couldn't ask for anything more for my children. After all, thats exactly what children crave...DIRECTION and LOVE. For those trying to shower her with material love...I say, back up and look at the big picture. I dont want a selfish child, but a loving one. Thats what I have underneath it all. It takes a village indeed, but the village must follow the chief. I am the chief, so all things MUST be cleared by me.
Don't mean to be rude because I appreciate EVERYTHING that has been done for her. The help is undeniable. But I have to TAKE CONTROL to "raise her up in the way she should go, so when she is old she will not depart from it" ~ The Book of Yahweh
The Mama is a FastGirl
16 years ago
2 comments:
as my ghetto friends would say, mmm holla! you are so right. sometimes it takes being hard edged to get the point across that you are raising your child your OWN way. you know i understand your plight and i fully support you. you are one of the few friends i have with discerning parenting preferences and i respect that. if people cannot accept the path you have laid out for your little ones, maybe they need to fall back a bit. after all, when all is said and done, your children are a trust on loan to you from the Creator and you are the one responsible. more power to you girl!
Been there, done that. Keep on parenting for there is no greater job on this earth than to care for the blessings that we are given to raise.
I was terrified for my own childrens safety and especially their mental well being for my family was blown apart by Satan. I prayed Yahweh to keep my children safe and healthy, whatever else I needed to experience I could endure, but I did not believe I could endure losing a child, or seeing one incapacitated. Yahweh was faithful to that request. That didnt mean they werent affected severely by the drama, however.
Long story short, I learned to let go and let Yahweh work. My prayer, "Yahweh they were dedicated to you when they were born. I can do nothing to help them in any of this pain. I am placing their care into your hands. Be merciful to them,you know what they need to learn, teach them. I pray that you would instill in them the desire to seek their own faith, to yearn after truth, to be strong unto themselves as they grow into your wisdom."
I am so grateful to say that I am seeing my prayers answered now these 4 years later. My children are emerging from their pain and desperation and I hear them saying things that I know has come from Yahweh's healing hand in their lives.
Your child will be a shining example of your parenting. Just keep on loving her.
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