Summer Reading

I finished reading the Steve Harvey joint a few weeks ago and I have to say I loved it.  Not all of it spoke to me (as a married woman) so i skipped to the stuff that applied.  I loved it because it gives an honest insight into the mans thought process.  Sometimes we as women feel like if we stroke a mans ego, we are giving up our power at times, but honestly the core of women and men will never change.  Women are emotional creatures and men are more logical.  Having been married 14 years now, I always look for new ways to recreate or rejuvenate parts of my relationship because lets face it, when children and other responsibilities come along, the romance goes out the window.  Steve gives easy, no nonsense solutions to every day problems like miscommunication, arguments, and how to get time to self for both.  I encourage the read.

My current read is even more amazing...Sacred Pampering Principles by Debrah Gandy...this is just what the Creator ordered for me.  The message is that African-American women MUST start learning to pamper ourselves in order to truly take care of others around us.  What I love is that it breaks down the real meaning of pampering and eliminates the illusions of what we have created it to be.  I have suffered many years not doing this out of guilt and simply because it is the picture my mother, grandmothers, and aunts painted for me too.  The black woman's motto: we may not do what we want to do, but we always do what we have to do.

Lemonade

As broke as I now am being unemployed, I had the nerve to continue our family plan to attend my cousins wedding this past weekend. Yep, I completely stepped out of my comfort zone. We ordered room service and just had a ball! I know you are probably saying, "what in the hell is wrong with you?!" Thats totally what I would say, but im implementing the "let go, let flow" mantra and practicing how to live in real faith. Faith that Yahweh hears my prayers and that His path for me will bring new light into my life.

The wedding almost brought me to tears. Primarily because it makes you reevaluate your relationship and recall why you got married in the first place. My man and I have been together for 17yrs and married 14yrs June 12. Damn saying that out loud is kinda crazy! We have made it through some REAL tough times and this era will be no different. So we are deciding to make lemonade with all the sour lemons we are being tossed right now.

Black Love in the Midst

This is where I aspire to be. I mean pictures really do speak a thousand words. There is nothing more sexy than growing wise with the man/woman the Creator sent to you. As this beautiful Black couple share an embrace, they look to Him for guidance, strength, unity, light, and love. Isn't that powerful?! Love like this don't always come around and in the midst of a society built on "if you cant love em, leave'em", "drop it like its hot", "blame it on the alcohol", or "when I get you to the crib" lines would we expect anything different?

Its Black History Month, but to me every day is filled with Black History. I choose to be a living example of what Black love should look like. It should be warm, embracing, cosy, respectful, "I got yo back", "you had me at hello", finish my sentence type of love. I'm on my way after 12 years of marriage but please believe I have a long way to go. I just pray that my still photo of marriage mimics this one.

Black Love Is...

Backing up each other no matter what...then sealing it with a pound

Getting older and wiser together: through the good and bad times

Through sickness & in health (even MS)

So damn sexy!

And they are all my daily inspiration to get better in mine :)