Summer Reading

I finished reading the Steve Harvey joint a few weeks ago and I have to say I loved it.  Not all of it spoke to me (as a married woman) so i skipped to the stuff that applied.  I loved it because it gives an honest insight into the mans thought process.  Sometimes we as women feel like if we stroke a mans ego, we are giving up our power at times, but honestly the core of women and men will never change.  Women are emotional creatures and men are more logical.  Having been married 14 years now, I always look for new ways to recreate or rejuvenate parts of my relationship because lets face it, when children and other responsibilities come along, the romance goes out the window.  Steve gives easy, no nonsense solutions to every day problems like miscommunication, arguments, and how to get time to self for both.  I encourage the read.

My current read is even more amazing...Sacred Pampering Principles by Debrah Gandy...this is just what the Creator ordered for me.  The message is that African-American women MUST start learning to pamper ourselves in order to truly take care of others around us.  What I love is that it breaks down the real meaning of pampering and eliminates the illusions of what we have created it to be.  I have suffered many years not doing this out of guilt and simply because it is the picture my mother, grandmothers, and aunts painted for me too.  The black woman's motto: we may not do what we want to do, but we always do what we have to do.

Feeding my Brain

While today I am childless for a brief moment (thanks to my amazing mother) I've decided to actually learn to take care of myself and not feel guilty.  I woke up at my leisure (8am lol but hey that's a start for a mother of 3), went to the jacuzzi even though its already like 100 degrees to try and heal my back situation.  I think I only lasted like 10 minutes because the water was scalding lol.  I then sat poolside reading my new summer book Straight talk, no chaser by Steve Harvey!  I honestly cant remember the last time I read a book for pleasure and I love to read.  Since I am in a space of renewal and searching, what better way to do that than to read a book on how to make my marriage better?  A few years ago, I decided to read He's Just Not that Into You while I was going through some things and boyyyyy did it speak to me.  So when Steve came out with his version i was very intrigued to read it...I mean a book from a brotha to a sista essentially...its a must read right?  I am already about 13 pages into it and its is a easy read, constant page turner, you don't want to put it down.  The truth is men and women really are different and the more we realize and except that, stop trying to change each other, the better off our relationships can be.  I will keep you posted on the read, but in the mean time I am enjoying my breakfast - greek yogurt with blueberries and granola with a croissant and sesame nut butter with a cup of candy cane tea, lemon and honey, all while listening to Fela Kuti.  Perfect start to a great day.