Last night I took 10min to read an inspiring article from the new Essence magazine. A psychologist, a female elder in the Black community, dug deep into the dynamic of Black marriage. It hit right home for me! I have been married for almost 9 years now with all the ebbs and flows. And yet still, every day I learn something very new. I mean, I think I am doing pretty well coming from a family of single women who often man bash.
Her message was so insightful because she has been married 50 years and she can still relate to my life. Even after coming from a different era when shivelry was in and "love at first sight" seemed to be the trend. Her advice...marriage is all about compromise and agreeing to disagree respectfully. I mean I have heard this before, but all her words just rolled off the pages like butter to my ears. Or maybe thats music? Anyway...today I am on a quest to identify the things that make my marriage great for me. We have a lot of growing to do. And with each new milestone in it, we have to make changes emotional, physically, and financially. This year I plan to actually celebrate my anniversary, Yahweh willing! : )
The Mama is a FastGirl
16 years ago
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Get your celebration on girl!! Marriage is wonderful at its best (so I've heard). I know there is still much work for me to do especially in light on the "oh you cooked" comment received last night.
I am trying to. Most importantly I want my marriage to be authentic, you know. Something honest, real, unaltered, and organic. There is yet work to do, but I think any strong marriage continues to grow and change.
Wow...marriage has been on my mind since I had an interesting convo with a good guy friend of mine...he had nothing nice to say really, and I have no foreseeable marriage prospects just yet...but being around happily married folk is like randomly rolling up on a $20 bill in your pocket! You made me smile!
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